Winning

 Here's the index, so you can see the reading you've missed :-P. Today is Tuesday August 8 hey its 8 8 and at 8 minutes after 8pm its gunna get really cool

I had an epiphany

1. My wife had a thing. I got an angry call or letter or something, where someone from my past was still angry over some ancient event, something i considered water under the ridge, any way her take on it was not to be angry, but to be ecstatic because you're winning. After all this time, they're still thinking about you. You're winning. You own their mind. That's what you want. It made sense and i've used it ever since. "What you're still angry at me for what happened 3 years ago? it must suck to be in your head cuz i won all the good property there, the prime real estate is mine, and i'm sipping a margarita". Now I'm going to give it to you.

2. Hear me out to the end

3. Ian leaves his shit all over and you pick up some of it and gripe about the rest. He wins that battle cuz you get mad, he doesn't even have to care, he just lets it go, its not on his mind, he's worry free and winning

4. You guys get in a fight, he gaslights and you get mad. He just forgets about it 5 minutes later and sometimes pretends like he's mad, but he's really not, he's happy because he's winning, yet you're mad, and that makes you miserable and that sinks you down to his level, he doesn't have to rise above you, he takes the easy route of dragging you down and adds another win in his tally.

5. Things are stressful around there and you're miserable and he's winning. You're getting ulcers and missing missing days of work and sunshine. We are up to round 3 and he's winning all of them

6. He can't figure you out really but he is able to drag you down. Yet you've got one tool.

7. imagine if all his actions were pee your pants funny. Which, thinking about it, they kind of are, and in the long run you're gunna win. So start acting like it now.

8. Everything he does is really just nailing more nails in his own coffin, and you should fucking go german schadenfreude on his ass. Take pleasure in his misfortune. Go out and have fun. Ignore him and his path of misery. If you are upset, don't let him see it, do your best acting, like you found the eternal orgasmatron or never-ending fountain of good shit, a chocolate highway, whatever. Just act like you're winning

9. It'll confuse him, that he isn't making you sad or mad, nothing is working in his favor anymore. so now you're not contributing to his happiness, because that comes from him making you mad or sad but you're adding to his confusion. you're winning a round,

10. Before you know it, you're actually winning because you're doing things things that make you happy., He's getting frustrated cuz he cant make you frustrated and cut you down to his level and he's getting more distraught while  you're increasingly having more fun . The tables keep tipping in your direction. —I took my wedding ring, we paid $1500 for a special ceramic process that was patented and going to be worth a lot, then the Chinese caught on and started making them for dirt cheap and i couldn't even get the pawn shop to give me $5. So, i went to the top of a volcano (Volcan de Masaya), i've got video of this (its down blow this post) actually happening, where you could see the boiling lava and just like Mt Doom and Frodo, i threw the ring into the volcano to destroy it. She ruined our marriage but i won. The analogy doesn't really fit I just wanted to tell the story and show the video

11. Make everything into your win, its free its easy. Do things you wanna do. Your roommate just doesn't want to do happy things so let him be miserable by himself. Let your hair down and be you again. its guaranteed to get the ball rolling in your favor. it's challenging but it's gunna feel good to have his everything backfire on him. Moreso its going to feel good to start being you again. Don't fight, go yea whatever, roll your eyes  and do your thing. Fighting hasn't solved anything and it wont. Smile, think about a  joke, giggle and just act happy, like you got something up your sleeve. Cuz you do and that's winning.

12. If you can't beat them, join them. if you can't beat them or join them, act like your winning.

13. And trust me, you can do this.. It's not silly. It's actually a good idea that cuts down on your stress. Its effective. You start looking for ways to find humor in everything because that's the winning solution. Looking at everything s a wiin and finding the ray of sunshine that always there one evry dar gloomy day. Instead of thinking and  focusing on how miserable everything makes you feel... And since we make our own destinies.... Soon you'll be finding happy in everything and it gets better because you don't gotta fight to win  - you can't win by fighting but you can win the fights by laughing and not fighting, its easier, leaves less wrinkles on your face or so i'm told and its better for your health, your dogs will like their world more, everybody benefits but him. its a free plan. its winning plan. a winning win. Quit thinking or trying to find ways to prove this wrong right now, embrace it and go win for fucks sake. Win it.