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Quit Chasing Mirages

Life is not about the destination. Fuck no! Life's about the journey. Fuck yea!

Hear me out. That 'destination' we often fixate on?  It’s a mirage. And as you well know, mirages are a illusion. 

Imagine this: you're just out of school, brimming with vigor, ready to conquer the world. You've charted a course—a career path, a life goal.  But life happens. Your trusty car dissolves into a cloud of smoke, or family duties beckon, and suddenly you're taking a different path – It's the nature of life—always unpredictable and ever-changing.

We all have goals and aspirations. It’s human nature. But as life pitches us curveballs, our plans and perspectives shift andour goals evolve with us, with every twist and turn. They tend to slip past us, almost unnoticed. That can be a burden, making its seem like you're never actually 'getting there.' But what if there's an easier way? A way to not get there and to succeed in life. The trick here isn’t in abandoning goals; it's in adjusting our focus from the goal to the voyage itself.  It's that simple..

Live in the now. Shift your perspective from reaching the goal to savoring the steps you take. Think of goals as aspirations, as mirages. They guide you, inspire you, but don't let your goals define you. Don't make that mistake. Don't define yourself by what you aren't or haven't achieved. Instead, embrace life's journey. That's what it's all about. Live in the moment. Love yourself. Never stop working towards that goal.  Just don't trapped by the illusions of goals. You'll always let more slip by than you'll reach. But most of all remember: it’s not about the mirage in the distance; it’s about the oasis you create along the way.

Quit Chasing Mirages Unabridged

Life is not about the destination. Fuck no! Life's about the journey. Fuck yea!

Hear me out. That 'destination' we often fixate on? It’s a mirage. And as you well know, mirages aren't reality.

Picture this: you're just out of school, brimming with vigor, ready to conquer the world. You've charted a course—a career path, a life goal. Then life intervenes. Your trusty car dissolves into a cloud of smoke, or family duties beckon, and suddenly you're taking a different path, one with lower pay and deferred dreams. It's the nature of life—unpredictable and ever-changing.

We all have goals and aspirations. It’s human nature. But as life pitches us curveballs, our plans and perspectives shift. Change is life's only constant. It hurls challenges and dilemmas our way, and how we respond—whether we dodge, weave, or confront them head-on—shapes our journey. Once vital goals, now unobtainable, slip past us, almost unnoticed. 

But deep inside, our inner scorekeeper takes note, tallying up a sense of loss. Over time, those losses add up, and subconsciously they start to take a toll. They are like bricks, weighing us down by casting doubt and inserting uncertainty in our once unwavering sense of direction and enthusiasm for life. But it doesn't have to be this way. Those 'bricks' of missed opportunities can be the very material we use to pave our new road forward. They can be the foundation for a path uniquely our own.

The trick here isn’t in abandoning goals; it's in adjusting our focus from the goal to the voyage itself.  It's that simple. Look here, Cambridge and Oxford dictionaries defines goal using the term "an aim." And that's all goals are: a direction or an aim. With each decision, don't put it off, but tackle it head on and make  your choice with conviction. And most of all,  trust in that choice. After all, There is no one else is as qualified to be making thoise decisions as you are. No one has been in your shoes or has all your interests at heart. Everybody is too busy dealing with their own curve balls to take notice.

So start making those decisions, don't let them hold you back by weighing you down. Soon enough decision making will become second nature. You'll find strength in your convictions, cutting through life's challenges like warm butter with a hot knife. Instead of carrying unsolved problems as burdens, you'll be solving them, laying them down in front of you, paving your own way to a better future with each one. It won't be long before you look back and smile at how far youve come how fun its been, but most of all you trust the person making them, and that's having faith. Once we begin having faith in ourselves, then we will begin to truly love who we are.

LIfe's forever going to be causing us to adapt and change. Avoidance isn't a strategy to get out of life's quagmire; it's a pitfall. Those near misses will start piling up, and because we adapt to survive, you'll find comfort and an identity . Don't make that mistake, don't define yourself by what you aren't or haven't achieved..

Think of goals as aspirations, as mirages. They guide you, inspire you, but they don't define you. If we measure our worth by these elusive visions, disappointment is inevitable. Instead, embrace life's journey. Love yourself, live in the moment, and aspire to grow. Work towards your goals, but never let the mirages determine your worth. That is the essence of a life well-lived.

Think of goals more like aspirations, or like a mirage. Sure, you're always heading in that direction, you can see it, you want to get there, by all means its right there just out of reach. But if you define yourself by your goals, you'll never associate your life with one of success and think you're failing in life. It doesn't have to be that way if you simply start living for and enjoying the journey. That's what its all about. Live in the moment. Love yourself. Never stop aspiring to better yourself. Never stop working towards that goal.  Just don't define yourself by mirages that you never reach.

Problems, love and embrace

Life is full of problems, hurdles, missteps and mishaps. Use them to your advantage!

Hear me out. In our last conversation, we unraveled the mirage of goal-chasing. Now, let's pivot to the power of perspective—how reframing memories can shape the life we lead.

Every day, I overhear people pondering 'what ifs,' longing for do-overs that never come. Dwelling on the past is a surefire way to dim the joy of your present life. Consider this: by dissecting every day for faults, you're training your brain to prioritize these missteps, etching them into your long-term memory. A lifetime of this well-intentioned self-critique can accumulate into a reservoir of regret.

However, there's a brighter path.

Remember, many of history's greatest discoveries were happy accidents. Just like in sales or dating, it's often the 'no's and the near-misses that guide us to our 'yes.' Embrace the unexpected. Cherish the lessons learned from what didn’t go according to plan, because that's where growth happens.

So, when reflecting, let the good take center stage. Replay the smiles, the laughter, the joy. Make a conscious choice to remember the positive. These moments of happiness are the ones to hold onto; they'll be the stars that light up your memory bank.

The next time you're asked about your day, share the good. Talk about the joke that made you chuckle, the kindness you witnessed, the little victories. This not only makes for delightful conversation but also cements the good in your psyche, paving the way for a fulfilled life.

Let's fill our memory banks with joys and triumphs, and in doing so, we won't just recall a great life; we'll be well on our way to living one.

Investing in your future happiness

Life is full of problems, hurdles, missteps and mishaps. Use them to your advantage!

Hear me out. Previously, we've uncovered the joy that comes from a memory bank brimming with positivity. But how does this shape the life ahead of us? It turns out we're not just walking through life; we're crafting it with our thoughts, backed by compelling scientific insights.

Our brains do more than passively receive the world; they actively construct it, influenced by our expectations and experiences. This isn't a simple reception of life's scenes; it's a creative process, an inward projection of outward experiences.

Now, imagine this: every second, an overwhelming two billion pieces of information bombard our senses. Yet, what does our brain actually present to our consciousness? A mere two thousand. To put this into perspective, think of it in terms of wealth. If your neighbor had a staggering $2 billion, what you're working with is the equivalent of a hundredth of a penny to their fortune. It's a minuscule fraction, so infinitesimal it's almost nonexistent.

This striking disparity illustrates how selective our perception truly is, how our brain, like a discerning billionaire, invests attention only in what aligns with our focus and desires. It's a powerful mechanism that can work in our favor. If we channel our thoughts towards the positive, towards what we aspire to, our brain will accentuate these elements in the grand tapestry of reality.

By holding onto the good, cherishing the successes, and savoring the joys, we're not just sifting through life for golden moments; we're placing a bet on what will define our reality. The mind's eye is keener than we realize, able to transform a penny of thought into a wealth of positivity.

So as you walk this journey, remember the power of your focus. It's the currency of your consciousness, the investment in your reality. Spend it wisely, and the returns will shape a life not just worth reflecting upon, but worth living every moment."

Investing v2

Life is full of problems, hurdles, missteps and mishaps. Use them to your advantage!

Hear me out. In our recent discussions, we've explored how a positive mindset can transform memories into a joyful reflection of life. But how does this shape our future? It turns out, we are the architects of our destiny, and science offers fascinating insights to support this.

Consider the theory of consciousness. It suggests that our brain does not just passively receive information; it actively constructs reality. Before we perceive what's happening around us, our brain has already set the stage, influenced by our past experiences, thoughts, and desires. This is not mere passive observation—it's an active creation.

Every second, our senses could process up to two billion bits of information, but that's too vast for anyone to handle. So, our brain filters this down to what it deems most relevant—about two thousand bits, based on what we focus on and what we expect to see. It's like having just a fraction of a penny compared to your neighbor's million dollars.

Now, apply this to your life. If you concentrate on positive goals and the good around you, your brain will prioritize those in your perception of reality. It's a powerful feedback loop: positivity breeds more positivity.

So, channel your energy into appreciating the good moments. By doing so, you're not just brightening your current outlook; you're training your brain to seek out and highlight the joys of life. This doesn't just create a happy memory bank—it sculpts a fulfilling reality, filled with positivity and contentment. And isn't that a reality we all wish to inhabit?